when i'm stuck i listen to music or watch tv and use a line from there and keep going.. eventually you can go back and edit and change it up a bit if it don't make sense.. it really helps with writers block, at least for me..
not sure what your situation is like but first of all you need a job, second you need a car, third you need to save your money, fourth you find someone you can trust to move in with you (for financial ease), fifth find a place to move in to, six get your utilities up and running and finally, pay your bills and live independently.. good luck.. you can search for places near your area with any search engine, but newspapers and old fashioned driving around and looking is best.
there's no need to tell her.. she won't really care and it'll make you seem weak so don't tell her under any circumstances.. just do it and she'll realize later why.. and when bumping into her just say hi and play nice but don't try to make long conversations or hang out with her.. but you should be polite and acknowledge her.. i know it's tough and it won't be easy getting over her but it's not impossible.. as soon as you find someone new you'll realize how easy it actually was. good luck.
Sorry, for some reason I wasn't able to view this posting til today.. Okay, so what I would do, which you obviously know, is walk away.. I have become the king of walking away.. know when to fold (poker reference).. your frienship is ruined coz you will never see her as just a friend.. you never really get over your crushes.. you just learn to walk away and not look back, or not let them catch you looking.. and you're right.. you can be there for her, pretending to be a good friend, but once someone else comes into the picture, and he will, you're going to feel like shit and despise him.. and she will introduce you to him as one of her best friends but he will know right away how you feel about her.. I've been there dozens of times, on both ends.. what most guys would do is stick around and torture themselves til they end up hating her for dating other people that will never be good enough for her, in their eyes.. you don't draw the lines they draw themselves.. you can walk away now or walk away then.. if you walk away now she will eventually understand.. if you walk away at the point where you hate her for not dating you she will never forgive you.. either way it's torture but the latter is the least torturous.. out of sight, eventually out of mind.. many guys pursue girls til they wear them down.. this takes years.. those too nice of guys and girls' best friends who are secretly in love with them stick around and never live out their lives coz they hold out for that one chance but she will never be in love with them.. it happens on rare occasions.. find comfort in knowing that you went for it and you told her how you feel.. so you have nothing to regret.. you can't find love somewhere where love does not exist.. so walk away now with dignity and move on.. it'll be hard and you'll feel weak but just keep in mind that she just didn't want you.. good luck.
I was realy good friends with her before I started thinking about her in that way, when those feelings developed I kept it quiet and carried on being a good friend. But recently the feelings have grown even stronger and I couldn't keep it inside me, so I told her and she basically said that it was fine with her but she doesn't like me back. Now I'm questioning whether I can carry on being a friend to her, when its like commiting emotional suicide.
I didnt see the previous questions before, but, I meant you shouldn't try to be her friend, and then give up if you find out she'll never be interested in you. I'd say you shouldn't try to be her friend first..
Its not fair on who? It's certainy not fair on me to live my life in misery, to not be able to get out of bed in the morning and face the world because the one girl i love, the girl who i am made for, has no feelings for me whatsoever. It's not that i don't want to be heer friend, i think she has an amazing personality, in fact it's her personality as much as anything i love about her. But if its really killing me on the inside (which it is), do i have any choice?
Adren, what are you views? Your advice is always extremely valuable.
So if there's no chance of you two becoming something, you want nothing to do with her? That's not fair. You should tell her how you feel though, but if you can't be friends, a relationship would be dooomed.
I think you need to disconnect yourself from him. If he can't make time for you, and if you can't make time for him, it's not worth it. Tell him that you'll miss him but you 2 cant talk anymore..
Good for you for telling her.. that was the best thing to do and it sounds like you see that.. she had no idea you had feelings for her and thought it was just you being a drunk jackass.. now the situation is cleared up.. so you put yourself out there and you went for it.. Great!.. unfortunately you're a victim of unrequited love.. her saying she doesn't like anyone at the moment is a soft way of letting you down.. but choosing those words in itself is tricky.. she left it open-ended.. she may change her mind within a few days or a few weeks.. but she'll let you know so don't bring it up again.. people do that, you know.. caught like a deer in headlights people say things to let the moment pass safely but later they get to think about it and analyze the big picture.. but as i mentioned, she will let you know if she has changed her mind.. the fact that you were honest with her and that she acknowledged the fact makes you a bigger man in her world.. so that's good.. all you need to do now is make sure you don't lose that communication with her and be a good friend and hope for the best.. support her and listen to her.. there's no need to mention your strong feelings for her again.. she knows this and will not forget, trust me.. good luck.
If you have a friend that's a girl and doesn't have a date yet then that would be your best choice. Or like Adren said, using social networking can be really effective. More along the lines of facebook though, not craigslist. The other week this guy posted something on facebook asking if anyone wanted to go to this dance with him as a joke and he actually got a date so it works! And if you can't find somebody, but you still want to go it's totally fine to go by yourself or with your group of friends...
Well i have the same problem and i told my ex how i felt about him and stuff and it helped him relize how much he's going to miss me if i moved on and it help alot wen i told him how i felt about him cuz now were closer than anything and we just got back together again!!! So my advise to u is to really tell him how much u really care about him so he can relize just how much u care about him and feel about him!!!
if you don't want to ask anybody out from your school use your social networks (myspace, facebook, IM, AIM, etc.).. I wouldn't recommend craigslist coz you never know who you're actually dealing with.. if all those options fail you may want to ask somebody's or your own cousin.. maybe one of your friends' sister.. worst comes to worse just skip it all together.. prom really isn't all they hype it up to be.. if you can go then go.. if not then either go stag or don't go at all or do what i did one year.. just show up to the party after prom.. good luck.
you should've changed your schedule earlier.. all you can do now is tough it out.. a lot of times students and teachers won't mix well together.. I've had a handfull of teachers I could just not get along with and had to drop their classes and find others.. at the same time, by realizing early on that it wouldn't work I was able to find better teachers I was more compatible with and did great in their classes.. I've tried to be stubborn and stuck it out with the worst of them but barely got by with low grades coz not all teaching styles are to everbody's learning style, especially not with teachers who like to bully their students.. and some do.. some do it on purpose to push students harder while others do it coz they're just plain douschebags.. but you did nothing now you have to tough it out.. three months will pass quickly.. don't even worry about that class though.. don't stress yourself out for a meezley class.. it's your freshman year.. you'll have plenty of other classes and time to do all that.. these classes aren't as crucial to your life as they make it to be, trust me.. just go and don't give the guy a second thought, otherwise it'll affect your other classes and you can't let one punk teacher ruin the rest of your class periods.. good luck.
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sadly i agree man....adren's right....=(..
when i'm stuck i listen to music or watch tv and use a line from there and keep going.. eventually you can go back and edit and change it up a bit if it don't make sense.. it really helps with writers block, at least for me..
not sure what your situation is like but first of all you need a job, second you need a car, third you need to save your money, fourth you find someone you can trust to move in with you (for financial ease), fifth find a place to move in to, six get your utilities up and running and finally, pay your bills and live independently.. good luck.. you can search for places near your area with any search engine, but newspapers and old fashioned driving around and looking is best.
then just be his friend and don't expect nothing more out of it..
there's no need to tell her.. she won't really care and it'll make you seem weak so don't tell her under any circumstances.. just do it and she'll realize later why.. and when bumping into her just say hi and play nice but don't try to make long conversations or hang out with her.. but you should be polite and acknowledge her.. i know it's tough and it won't be easy getting over her but it's not impossible.. as soon as you find someone new you'll realize how easy it actually was. good luck.
Sorry, for some reason I wasn't able to view this posting til today.. Okay, so what I would do, which you obviously know, is walk away.. I have become the king of walking away.. know when to fold (poker reference).. your frienship is ruined coz you will never see her as just a friend.. you never really get over your crushes.. you just learn to walk away and not look back, or not let them catch you looking.. and you're right.. you can be there for her, pretending to be a good friend, but once someone else comes into the picture, and he will, you're going to feel like shit and despise him.. and she will introduce you to him as one of her best friends but he will know right away how you feel about her.. I've been there dozens of times, on both ends.. what most guys would do is stick around and torture themselves til they end up hating her for dating other people that will never be good enough for her, in their eyes.. you don't draw the lines they draw themselves.. you can walk away now or walk away then.. if you walk away now she will eventually understand.. if you walk away at the point where you hate her for not dating you she will never forgive you.. either way it's torture but the latter is the least torturous.. out of sight, eventually out of mind.. many guys pursue girls til they wear them down.. this takes years.. those too nice of guys and girls' best friends who are secretly in love with them stick around and never live out their lives coz they hold out for that one chance but she will never be in love with them.. it happens on rare occasions.. find comfort in knowing that you went for it and you told her how you feel.. so you have nothing to regret.. you can't find love somewhere where love does not exist.. so walk away now with dignity and move on.. it'll be hard and you'll feel weak but just keep in mind that she just didn't want you.. good luck.
Adren????
I was realy good friends with her before I started thinking about her in that way, when those feelings developed I kept it quiet and carried on being a good friend. But recently the feelings have grown even stronger and I couldn't keep it inside me, so I told her and she basically said that it was fine with her but she doesn't like me back. Now I'm questioning whether I can carry on being a friend to her, when its like commiting emotional suicide.
I didnt see the previous questions before, but, I meant you shouldn't try to be her friend, and then give up if you find out she'll never be interested in you. I'd say you shouldn't try to be her friend first..
Its not fair on who? It's certainy not fair on me to live my life in misery, to not be able to get out of bed in the morning and face the world because the one girl i love, the girl who i am made for, has no feelings for me whatsoever. It's not that i don't want to be heer friend, i think she has an amazing personality, in fact it's her personality as much as anything i love about her. But if its really killing me on the inside (which it is), do i have any choice?
Adren, what are you views? Your advice is always extremely valuable.
So if there's no chance of you two becoming something, you want nothing to do with her? That's not fair. You should tell her how you feel though, but if you can't be friends, a relationship would be dooomed.
I think you need to disconnect yourself from him. If he can't make time for you, and if you can't make time for him, it's not worth it. Tell him that you'll miss him but you 2 cant talk anymore..
Good for you for telling her.. that was the best thing to do and it sounds like you see that.. she had no idea you had feelings for her and thought it was just you being a drunk jackass.. now the situation is cleared up.. so you put yourself out there and you went for it.. Great!.. unfortunately you're a victim of unrequited love.. her saying she doesn't like anyone at the moment is a soft way of letting you down.. but choosing those words in itself is tricky.. she left it open-ended.. she may change her mind within a few days or a few weeks.. but she'll let you know so don't bring it up again.. people do that, you know.. caught like a deer in headlights people say things to let the moment pass safely but later they get to think about it and analyze the big picture.. but as i mentioned, she will let you know if she has changed her mind.. the fact that you were honest with her and that she acknowledged the fact makes you a bigger man in her world.. so that's good.. all you need to do now is make sure you don't lose that communication with her and be a good friend and hope for the best.. support her and listen to her.. there's no need to mention your strong feelings for her again.. she knows this and will not forget, trust me.. good luck.
If you have a friend that's a girl and doesn't have a date yet then that would be your best choice. Or like Adren said, using social networking can be really effective. More along the lines of facebook though, not craigslist. The other week this guy posted something on facebook asking if anyone wanted to go to this dance with him as a joke and he actually got a date so it works! And if you can't find somebody, but you still want to go it's totally fine to go by yourself or with your group of friends...
Well i have the same problem and i told my ex how i felt about him and stuff and it helped him relize how much he's going to miss me if i moved on and it help alot wen i told him how i felt about him cuz now were closer than anything and we just got back together again!!! So my advise to u is to really tell him how much u really care about him so he can relize just how much u care about him and feel about him!!!
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it is so obvious that he likes you. get in there and get yourself this guy!
if you don't want to ask anybody out from your school use your social networks (myspace, facebook, IM, AIM, etc.).. I wouldn't recommend craigslist coz you never know who you're actually dealing with.. if all those options fail you may want to ask somebody's or your own cousin.. maybe one of your friends' sister.. worst comes to worse just skip it all together.. prom really isn't all they hype it up to be.. if you can go then go.. if not then either go stag or don't go at all or do what i did one year.. just show up to the party after prom.. good luck.
you should've changed your schedule earlier.. all you can do now is tough it out.. a lot of times students and teachers won't mix well together.. I've had a handfull of teachers I could just not get along with and had to drop their classes and find others.. at the same time, by realizing early on that it wouldn't work I was able to find better teachers I was more compatible with and did great in their classes.. I've tried to be stubborn and stuck it out with the worst of them but barely got by with low grades coz not all teaching styles are to everbody's learning style, especially not with teachers who like to bully their students.. and some do.. some do it on purpose to push students harder while others do it coz they're just plain douschebags.. but you did nothing now you have to tough it out.. three months will pass quickly.. don't even worry about that class though.. don't stress yourself out for a meezley class.. it's your freshman year.. you'll have plenty of other classes and time to do all that.. these classes aren't as crucial to your life as they make it to be, trust me.. just go and don't give the guy a second thought, otherwise it'll affect your other classes and you can't let one punk teacher ruin the rest of your class periods.. good luck.
thank you! It makes a lot of sense now to me. :D